In view of the fast changing times in society, mothers are faced with multiple problems with keeping pace with them and the impact it has on young minds. Increased exposure through various platforms of the media has led to some positive things as information is available at hand’s reach level. This makes an average youngster also well informed and able to keep in tune with trends. But there is also a flip and not-so-pleasant side to it. With an overdose of information available there is also content that is misleading. Mothers have started to take an active role in educating their daughters on the perils of following unchartered information.
How to educate your teenage daughter about puberty?
As the more active parent, mothers have the critical task of shaping an ongoing exchange to zero in on pertinent issues related to our children’s healthy sexual development. During middle school, parents ask what is going on in health class, so that you can help deal with any questions they feel uncomfortable asking in school. Regardless of what’s being taught, it is helpful to review details so that you know what points have stuck and what is still not so clear.
- Physical changes: When kids approach the age at which big changes begin, they need more detailed and concrete understandings of what to expect and how to deal with it. Review with her changes that occur in the body as a result of hormone changes during puberty. She will notice differences in her genitals and also experience secondary changes (e.g., developing breasts). Remind her that such changes occur at different ages for different kids, so she doesn’t worry if puberty comes faster or slower for her than for their friends. A girl’s period and the changes that come with it can create very stressful and confusing experiences. Since everyone reacts differently to this rite of passage, you want to be sure your daughter knows she can talk to you about any questions or concerns she might have. Hormonal changes and identity formation are two of the most challenging aspects of puberty (for both you and your child). Hormones have a powerful impact on mood, so warn your child how these changes affect how she feels. In addition to the emotional impact of physical and hormonal changes, kids also experience emotional swings over how they feel about themselves personally and socially.
- Relational changes: At this age, kids start hearing more about sexual intercourse and encounter stories. Even if you wish you could shield your child from exposure to the realities of sex at this young age, the truth is they have access to so many outside outlets that shielding them entirely is impossible. Television, movies, internet, magazines, music and the mouths of their schoolmates are all filled with sexual connotations and imagery, from seemingly innocuous ads for soft drinks to the innuendo that pervades evening sitcoms. This exposure is nothing to be afraid of if you really speak with them about sexual intercourse, the importance of safe sex, the threat of AIDS and other STIs, and sexual abuse.
- Social changes: By preadolescence, kids are ready to expand their friendships and activities to include both girls and boys. Often this is because they feel a physical interest in another person. The same feelings produce urges and desires that get directed into crushes on celebrities and crushes on friends. Talking about these feelings and offering guidelines for dating, dancing, and other age-appropriate activities is a significant part of your role in this stage of their life. In this period of transition into adolescence, it’s essential to establish rules that protect your child yet also demonstrate your trust in her judgment.
- Spiritual changes: As preadolescents develop an understanding for interpersonal relationships, their capacity for empathy and love Their spiritual resources become more personal and relational. An engagement with one’s own spiritual tradition and its values that improve life—such as fair play, respect, and responsibility—can be meaningfully applied to sexuality. Children look for consistency and principles that support well-being, trust, and integrity. Encourage their spiritual growth.